Unchanging Truth. Changing World.

Our language and our words carry far more than their surface meaning. As coaches, we don’t just listen to what is being said; we listen for where those words were formed. We examine their origin, the experiences that shaped them, and the meaning they now hold in our clients’ lives. We invite people to notice how their language has become a mirror of their story.

Every word holds a memory. Every memory carries emotion.Every emotion shapes belief.

So I ask: What experiences taught you the words you use to describe yourself?

What are those words still holding you to?

Are they keeping you in the past, trapping you in the present, or inviting you toward growth?

John F. Kennedy once said,“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.”

Change has a gravitational pull stronger than our emotional and moral readiness often feels prepared for. It exposes what we cling to. It challenges what we believe. It asks us to decide whether we will remain bound by old narratives or step into new truth.

I remember standing in the tension between painful memories and present circumstances.The past whispered, “You are not loved.” The present tried to confirm it: “See, he doesn’t love you.”

Both were pulling me toward the same conclusion. Both were asking me to stay small, guarded, and unchanged. The real question wasn’t what they said. The question was whether I would allow those narratives to define my future.

Would I let past wounds and present fear prevent me from changing my beliefs, my emotions, and my understanding of who I truly am?

Today, our culture mirrors this same tension:

Technology shifts.

Values are debated.

Roles are redefined.

Truth is questioned.

Mental health needs are louder.

Faith is challenged.

Identity is confused.

When our past still holds us captive, we sabotage our future selves. When we cling too tightly to the present, we resist growth.Both keep us from leading, loving, and living wisely into what’s ahead.

And yet, as the world continues to change, we as Christians find our security in a God who is eternal, unchanging, and consistent. The truth of God’s Word is what grounds us. It mends the past, stabilizes our present, and gives vision for our future.

“They will perish, but you remain; they will all wear out like a garment. Like clothing you will change them and they will be discarded.”— Psalm 102:26 (NIV)

Everything around us may shift, fade, or wear down, but God remains the same. His permanence is not restrictive—it is reassuring. It reminds us that our foundation was never meant to be found in circumstances, people, or our own understanding.

Job 14:5 speaks to this tension between human limitation and divine sovereignty:

“A person’s days are determined; you have decreed the number of his months and have set limits he cannot exceed.”— Job 14:5 (NIV)

There is peace in knowing that your time and my time rest in God’s hands. Change is not chaos when God is sovereign over it. It is refinement. It is direction. It is growth.

For faith-based leadership, this doesn’t mean compromising truth.It means carrying truth into changing spaces with clarity, courage, and compassion.

For counseling and coaching, it means:

• Being flexible without losing integrity

• Being culturally aware without losing biblical grounding

• Being innovative without crossing ethical boundaries

For individuals, it means:

• Growth requires discomfort

• Maturity requires adaptation

• Faith requires movement, not stagnation

So I leave you with these questions:

What words are shaping your identity right now?

Where did they come from?Do they reflect God’s truth or past pain?

Are they anchoring you or imprisoning you?

Are you allowing God’s Word to redefine your story?

The danger today isn’t change.The danger is resisting growth while the world keeps moving.

Change is happening whether we participate or not.

The real question is:

Will you shape it…or will you be shaped by it?