5 Keys to Fostering Openness and Trust in Your Marriage
After over 20 Years of Military Marriage: Rediscovering Trust and Mission in Our Relationship
Reflecting on more than two decades of marriage, especially in the context of military life, we've come to realize the rarity of enduring partnerships. Amidst the challenges, we found that trust emerged as the linchpin that held our relationship together.
In the early days, navigating the complexities of military relationships left us uncertain about whom to confide in. It's challenging to express vulnerability when faced with responses like, "I cannot hear about problems or feelings; focus on the mission." While reminding each other of our individual missions during separations, we inadvertently lost sight of the overarching mission of our marriage. The relationship started to feel like a series of tasks, and the weight of confusion set in.
As we delved deeper, we understood that the burden wasn't merely from doing things for each other but stemmed from unmet needs, emotional withdrawal, and a lack of connection. Seeing marriage as more than a mission – as a shared mission – changed our perspective. We began questioning the purpose and mission of our marriage.
Take a moment to reflect on your journey. How did you envision your life with your spouse when you first met? What were your expectations in terms of connection, feelings, and mutual support? Now, consider the experiences that made you feel heard, valued, and needed in your partnership. Redirecting our focus from mere tasks to the mission of unity has been transformative for us, reshaping our narrative and strengthening our bond.
Enjoy our weekly tips designed to help you rediscover, redirect, and reinforce the purpose and meaning of your marriage.
Tip #1 -Establish Trust by being reliable and consistent in your actions and words.
Tip #2 -Schedule regular check-ins
Tip #3 - Listen attentively
Tip #4 - Express your own feelings and thoughts openly and honestly
Tip #5 -Use "I" Statements instead of you "You"
Approach conversations with an open mind. People can change, and so can our perceptions. How do you navigate conversations when past experiences shape your thoughts and feelings?